Do you worry when you child pulls another's hair, or your child plays with a toy pistol? Some parents think that these aggressive actions ought to be squelched right away. There is no question that our civilized life couldn't last at all if people didn't learn to control their violent feelings. But parents don't have to worry about this job too much. A normal child learns these controls bit by as he/she develops, through the unfolding of his/her own nature and the good relationship he/she has with his/her parents.
Think the transformations of the child's aggressive feelings at different age periods. The little baby who is hungry feels furious at the whole world. The 1 year baby sometimes slaps at his mother's face when he feels cross if she let him. By a year and a half, if he has been treated gently but firmly, he is more apt to refrain from attack but he takes out his rage by kicking the floor.
